About us and what we're looking for

About Us: We love all sorts of sex: swinging, internet chat (IRC, AIM or Y!), webcam chat, voyeurism, skinnydipping, outdoor sex, sexy photography and exhibitionism. Watching and being watched by another couple is a big turn on for us BOTH. We have no interest in entertaining solo singles for this in person, so please don't ask!

We met for the first time on December 27, 1998. To most of you that means we were in the same place at the same time. Well, welcome to the 21st Century. We met in a cybersex video chat conference room on the internet. Yes, we are two of those webcam weirdos. We spent a LONG time just being friends. We shared our thoughts and dreams and one of us (or both of us) avoided the obvious and wouldn't say YES to meeting in person. On June 9, 2001 at the restored Revolutionary War Village at Waterloo New Jersey we finally met. It was kismet and we have been inseparable ever since. We were married in May 2002.

---> We do not play alone OR with solo single guys, couples only <---

Hoople: Straight, 6 feet, 245 pounds, 7 inch and circumcised (cut).
hotdi: bisexual, 5 foot 6 inches, BBW, 38DD and shaved.

We're looking for:

We are a soft swing/soft swap ONLY couple looking for fun times and sexy play and more with other like minded couples, 'safe sex' a must. Dinner, drinks and 'times out on the town' are a BIG plus, but not a must requirement. We play together ONLY, never separately. We like large parties but also have enjoyed many quiet times with smaller groups or a couple. Solo single guys PLEASE do NOT contact us for 3somes as we will only turn you away. When we swing we prefer that the woman is bisexual as hotdi and I both love the play that results of it. When required hotdi can be straight for ladies that find bisexual action unpleasant. Some of our best swinging experiences have been as a sixsome (3 couples together - MMM/FFF) at a swing club/party with friends. We enjoy some lighter kinks too like: sexy photography (non-close-ups), sex in the great outdoors and nights out where the 'action' is in view, loving and playful (not x rated) while 'out on the town'.

We want to try at some point in the future hotel room exhibitionism, same room sex and bi play for the ladies while the guys (couples only) watch. We want to try 'Same room' (or blanket outdoors) sex again with other couples that doesn't necessarily end up in swinging play. hotdi wants to try to have sex on the beach again at our local nude beach. We tried it once in Vermont at the nude beach there and it was hot!

OUR definitions and a rule or two:

Some may feel having rules is limiting, our page on Why have swinging rules? is our explanation for why we have them. Below we tried to spell out what we do and don't want to be totally clear. What do all those sexy acronyms aka Common Swinging Terminology means that people use? For the rest of you, read on:

What we don't want:

To most that have read fully the above this section may seems redundant, but there are some solo single guys that somehow feel that they still have a chance of sorts as they feel they still 'fit' our requirements.

Play alone/separately - NO!

Threesomes - NO!

Gang Bangs - NO!


Heavy smokers - NO!

Heavy Drinkers - NO! As it's kinda difficult to get a hardon when you're trashed! We do socialize with non-drinkers.

Transvestites (TV) or Cross Dressers (CD) - NO!

Still not convinced? Here's a work in progress list of sexual kinks we may never do.

Our other swinging interests

We have have public profiles on www.SwingLifeStyle.com as hooplenhotdi and on CouplesBiFm as http://www.couplesbifm.com/myprofile/HoopleNhotdi too. This is one of Hoople's (two women sucking him). We occasion do "G" rated meetings with newbie couples about to answer questions about swinging when they express a need to have their questions answered by an experienced 'real' actively swinging couple.

Contacting Us

We both have IM but Hotdi now blocks all Yahoo! ID's NOT on her list. Read her post on this topic on our blog. Short take: there are a large mass of clueless guys who are too crude, assumptive and/or abusive to ever meet us, they ruined it for the rest of you.

Hoople: click to e-mailHoople <hooplehotdi@hooplenhotdi.us>

Hotdi: click to e-mailHotdi <hotdi@hooplenhotdi.us>


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